Friend or stranger? Neither sounds simple.
A familiar face may feel safer. Until you have to see them at Sunday lunch.
I keep seeing people say a friend is safer than a stranger. Really?
Safer in one way, messier in six others.
At least you know a friend's not completely unhinged.
You know how they behave as a friend. You don't automatically know how they'll behave in this situation.
The problem for me is what happens AFTER. Like, you still see them at birthdays.
Exactly. Nothing happens and you've still changed every dinner party.
A stranger might be worse. You have no idea if they're discreet.
You also don't have to pretend you didn't have a complicated conversation with them at someone's BBQ.
Maybe stop looking for 'the safe category'. Look for a respectful person, a clear agreement and a way to leave.
That sounds like a lot of logistics for something meant to be spontaneous.
Maybe it SHOULD have logistics.
Spontaneous is nice when picking wine. Not necessarily when three people's feelings are involved.
I'd still want to meet somewhere neutral first. Nothing at home.
Same. If the coffee feels weird, great, we've had coffee. End of story.
I think coffee is the only sensible answer anyone's given.
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