They said yes. Now what?

Someone agrees to discuss an idea that used to live only in fantasy. Good news, right? Except "yes, we can talk about it" and "yes, let's arrange it" are miles apart. In a review of 8,813 WifeWantsToPlay threads, first-time language appeared somewhere in 2,309 discussions. Words about rules, limits or consent appeared in 1,187. Those groups overlap. Neither figure tells us how many couples actually did anything. Still, look at the question hiding behind the excitement: what exactly was agreed? Was it permission to imagine? To flirt? To meet someone for coffee? To have a conversation later? Before booking anything, try asking the gloriously unromantic question: "When you said yes, what did you think I was asking?" There may be two very different answers.